Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Things You Should NOT Do on a First Date

Dating rules are driven by societal norms, popular trends, and even advances in technology. Although the specifics may change with each generation, common standards exist and should be followed.

On a first date, DO NOT:

  1. Talk about your ex or other past relationships: This should be self-explanatory, but many make this mistake.  Spending time discussing a past love may send the message that you are not over them and/or not into your current date.  If you are asked by your date, simply say, "We were just not right for each other" and change the subject.  
  2. Play with your cell phone: Resist the urge to text/call others (except for emergencies), update Facebook or Twitter, check stock portfolios, or play a newly downloaded game.  Being nervous, disinterested or disrespectful does not send a good first impression.  If the date is so bad that you want to do these things, end it and enjoy the rest of your day/night.
  3. Go to the movies: Sitting in the dark for 2 hours is not a good way to get to know someone.  It is a common dating option, but there are betters ways to spend time with someone new.
  4. Refer to yourself in the 3rd person: A technique right out of a bad 80s "B" movie, there is no quicker way to turn someone off.  
  5. MEN - Refuse to pay: Just because it's 2010, doesn't mean that acting like Prince Charming is passé.  It is customary, and has been for centuries, that the man pays for the first date.  And ladies...expect this to happen and let it happen.  Most guys report they expect to pay and feel it is their duty.       
  6. WOMEN - Choose a salad if you usually order steak: A mistake many women make in an attempt to portray a dainty, health conscious image.  Men would rather date a woman who is not afraid to eat and does not obsess over every calorie.
  7. Arrive late (unless you let them know): Ever heard the saying, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression"?  Being late is a good way to show someone how much you care...about yourself!
  8. Take them to meet your friends or family: This one is easy and everyone knows it right? No. You would be amazed how often this happens.  A strong connection and feeling like you've known this person forever makes it okay to break this rule.  If you believe that, then you are just as crazy as they are.  Run Forrest Run!
  9. Drink too much: Unless you want to look like you have an addiction, embarrass yourself, or put yourself at risk for bad behavior (and the unwanted consequences), stick to a two drink maximum.
  10. Forget to tell someone of your plans: Dating is fun, but it can also be dangerous. Men and women should tell someone their whereabouts, so it is okay to break rule #2 if plans change.
I am sure there are many more first date no-nos, and would love to hear your suggestions.