Friday, May 28, 2010

The Marriage Plan

Most major decisions in life require careful and detailed planning: buying a house or car, choosing a college to attend, going on vacation, etc.  Although, many fail to prepare for one of the biggest choices we make in life-getting married.  Watch the following video of Will and Jada Smith discussing their marriage plan.

Do you have a marriage plan?  Or for those of you not married, do you have a relationship plan?  If so, good for you.  Keep up the good work, follow your plan, and update it frequently.  For those without one, these questions/topics should help you and your spouse (or future spouse) create your own plan based on what you both want from the relationship.

This list is very short and is only a beginning to the conversation on how to tailor your own specific plan.  Take the time to discuss these topics (and more) with your partner and refer to it frequently.  It is expected that answers to these questions will change over time.  Continue to foster your friendship and update it as needed.

As always, give me feedback on your opinions and/or experiences with the marriage plan.

Lie Detectors

The other day, I was listening to one of my favorite satellite radio stations when one of the co-hosts was talking about her fiancĂ©e and his bachelor party in Las Vegas.  Listeners were calling in, sending emails and posting on the channel’s Facebook page to tell her stories of what goes on there.  You know, "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas"...right?

After working herself into a complete and utter panic, once he returned she suggested that he take a lie detector test!?!  And she wanted him to take it live on the air!?!  But of course, he refused.  The other co-hosts were on opposites sides on this one.  The other female on the show agreed and said that she had no problem asking her husband take one.  The male on the show -whom I love BTW- stated that he would NEVER take one and would be offended if asked to do so.  

Despite the fact that lie detector tests have horrible reliability and validity, her insistence that he take one (and in such a public manner, no less) speaks volumes about her INSECURITIES and her INABILITY TO TRUST him.  Also, she said that she would take one also as she had nothing to hide.

IMHO, he should take this situation VERY seriously and think about the decision to marry her.  This is definitely a sign of things to come.