Is it Time to Break Your Bad Relationship Habits?

Are your quirky behaviors not so cute anymore?  Do your interactions with your partner need some adjusting?  How would you know?  

The following article examines some relationship habits (that many of us fall victim to) which should be abandoned.  

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Finding Your Relationship Deal-Breakers

Deal-breakers are those things (character traits, lifestyle choices, behavior, etc.) in a relationship that can end the relationship.  Some people have very specific deal-breakers and others have general ways of evaluating whether or not they will continue a relationship.  

Common relationship deal-breakers:

• Domestic violence 
• Infidelity
• Change in sexual orientation
• Criminal activity
• Substance abuse
• Poor financial habits
• Dishonesty
• Undesirable personality traits
• i.e., anger, jealousy, uncleanliness, conceit, etc.

It is a good idea to know your deal-breakers BEFORE entering into a relationship.  Upon meeting a potential mate, stick to your deal-breakers and DO NOT excuse them or assume your mate will eventually change. 

Steps to identifying your own relationship deal-breakers:

    Make a list 

    Write down all the things you can think of that you CANNOT tolerate in a     

    relationship.  This may take some time as it requires thinking of situations  

    that you have and have not experienced.  Get inspired by others using 

    situations from friends and family, and examples from the media.

    Revise your list 

    Most of us have just a few true deal-breakers.  The rest of our lists would 

    include dislikes, or traits we would rather not have to deal with.  But 

    remember that authentic relationships require work.  Our loved ones have 

    flaws, as do we, therefore many unwanted behaviors will not be deal-

    breakers.

    Follow your list

    Accepting or ignoring deal-breakers will inevitably lead to relationship 

    dissatisfaction.  No relationship is worth overlooking your deal-breakers 

    no matter how attractive, nice, or attentive a someone may be. 

If you have already established your deal-breakers, please comment and let us know what they are.