Getting your life in order requires prioritizing and focusing on what matters. To do so, you need to develop ability to put yourself first. Not meant in a selfish manner, but putting yourself means that you make your needs and care a priority. It is impossible to adequately help others without first helping yourself. Although difficult for most, it is possible. Use the following rights to establish your place on your priority list. Keep a copy of these on the bathroom mirror, at the office, on the refrigerator door, in your gym locker...wherever you will refer to it frequently.
I have the right to TAKE CARE OF MYSELF
I have a right to MY OWN PERSONAL SPACE and TIME
I have a right to have MY NEEDS and WANTS respected by others
I have a right to MAKE MY OWN DECISIONS based on my feelings and judgment
I have the right to MAKE MISTAKES and not be perfect
I have the right to BE UNIQUELY ME without feeling I’m not good enough
I have a right to all of MY FEELINGS, not just those feelings other people want me to feel
I have the right to EXPECT THINGS from others
I have the right NOT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS' behavior, actions, feelings or problems
I have the right to EXPECT HONESTY from others
Adapted from: "21st Century Bill of Rights for Mothers" by Susan Van Scoyoc
